Married Life- Greg's Perspective

"How's married life?" If I could get a buck for every time I've heard that question since becoming a newlywed, I'd be able to purchase a new car. Of all the questions I've been asked since August 2, 2014, this has been the most prominent one. My answer: "It's different."

Some people take it as a joke, as if I was attempting to politely cover up a sort of disdain for married life. Others react with a surprised "Really?" I wonder why my response would seem extraordinary. Even if it is an odd response, my answer is an honest one. Married life truly is different. There is not one facet of my life that has remained the same since the day I married Asia. Everything is different. Not better. Not worse. Just different.

Among the many differences is time management. More specifically (for me anyway) ministry management. Before we were married, I spent a ton of time doing ministry on campus and with churches, but after being married I was immediately confronted with the fact that marriage is a massive time investment and is more important than ministry in a church or school. I have the weighty privilege of stewarding Asia's heart, therefore I must give more attention and time to her than to teaching and preaching.

Another difference is intimacy, and I'm not talking about sex. Being married means seeing your spouse practically all day, every day. You think you know them on a deep level before you get married, which is true, but you will continue to mine the depths of intimacy once you're married. Some things you discover are wonderful, others not as wonderful. The beauty of this deeper knowledge is that you accept and are accepted, flaws and all.

So how's married life? It's different. Not good, not bad. Just different.

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