Go ahead and throw all of your knowledge about marriage
right out of the window. Well, that is, if your knowledge of marriage comes
from movies, society, and/or an outside/inside perspective of an ungodly
marriage (where both spouses are not Christ followers). I have been exposed to
all of the above perspectives of marriage and let me tell you, they were and
are no help to understanding marriage the way it was intended to be understood.
Who created marriage? A. Celebrities B. The big bang C.
Marriage is meant to be subjective
Well, A, B, and C are all incorrect answers. The Creator of
marriage is the same Creator who created you and me. His name is God and He
introduces Himself to His people (us) in Exodus 20:2 where He says, “I am the Lord
your God, who brought you out of the land of Egypt, out of the house of
slavery.”
What a gracious God! He brings us
out of things and gives us Himself!
Marriage as you have heard many
times before, is hard and is hard work. This will never be a false statement.
It is reality. Let that sink in. MARRIAGE IS HARD AND IS HARD WORK. When you are married, you will NOT escape this
truth, so the sooner you come to this reality, the better off you will be. Think
about all the relationships that you have. Mother-Son, Mother-Daughter, Father-Son,
Father-Daughter, Sibling-sibling, Best-friend-Best-friend, etc. Are those some
of the closest people to you? Are those relationships faultless? They are not.
No relationship on this earth will be faultless. Conflict is healthy. Communication
is healthy. They cause growth.
Greg and I have been married for 7
months. They have been very beautiful months. Months filled with days. Days
that are filled with up’s and down’s (Yes, in one day). Greg and I courted for
2 years and 28 days before we were married. We had up’s and down’s in our
courtship. We were not naive to believe that our marriage would be any
different. By God’s grace, He has allowed Greg and I to conflict well. We do
not name call, storm out on each other, hit, or curse. We talk. We communicate.
We pray. We resolve to grow in Christ. Our courtship was a long-distance
courtship. We spent many nights on the phone and on Skype talking. We learned
how to communicate. We learned how to share our feelings when we were
displeased, offended, or disrespected. This is a life skill that will work
wonders in your future marriage!
Do you ever really wonder why
there is a 50% divorce rate? Why the average length of a supposed “perfect”
celebrities marriage is about two years? Well, it sure is not because marriage
is always blissful and your spouse will always make you happy. Ha! Again, that
is movie scene lies. Social media, “I will show you only my “good” life”, lies!
You will hurt each other, but there is grace and through the very same grace
God gives us, you will be able to extend this grace to your spouse! Marriage is
about being selfless. You serve your spouse like Jesus served you and your
spouse does the same. You serve, love, extend grace, and bear the nine fruit of
the spirit with consistency though God.
I was never the girl who dreamed
of marriage. I did not allow marriage to cloud my single service to the Lord
and His people. I knew that relationships would be hard and I knew that the
desires I had to be married would be fulfilled. If you also have the desire to
marry and/or have children, trust that God will provide you with your desires
when He knows that you are ready for marriage. Pursue God, grow in your relationship with
God, do NOT waste your singlehood waiting to be someone’s spouse. Marriage is
merely an extension of the ministry you began as a single. You marry and
continue to serve God and His people. That does not STOP! After all you are
ambassadors of God. Here for a momentary time to share the hope of Jesus with
unbelievers. The good news is that Christ came and died for the sins of the
world and desires to change us from the inside out so that our short days on
the earth will be filled with meaning! Our meaning can only be found in the One
who gives it to us, God!
So who created marriage?
“The
Lord God fashioned into a woman
the rib which He had taken from the man, and brought her to the man. The
man said,
“This is now
bone of my bones,
And flesh of my flesh;
She shall be called Woman,
Because she was taken out of Man.”
And flesh of my flesh;
She shall be called Woman,
Because she was taken out of Man.”
For this
reason a man shall leave his father and his mother, and be joined to his wife;
and they shall become one flesh. And the man and his wife were both naked and were not
ashamed.” Genesis 2:24
So, if God created marriage, who should you go to for the
answers on how to have a happy marriage, where love multiples and does not
divide?
Cosmopolitan magazine, self-help books, Oprah, Iyanla Vanzant:
Fix my life, People magazine, VH1, MTV, BET?
Yes, you will need to go to God. He has 66 incredible books
called the Holy Bible, that are designed to help you live this life abundantly!
Open up your daily bread and EAT!
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Thank you so much for this . Can one still be romantic in expressions and communication in a Christian courtship?
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